From Sorority Sisterhood to Motherhood: Embracing Every Stage of Life
From Sisterhood to Motherhood
This past weekend, I had the honor of returning to my college town and speaking at a Phi Mu recruitment event with my dear friend, Katie, who also co-hosts the Dittos in the Back Podcast with me. It’s been eighteen years since we first met as sorority sisters, yet the memories came rushing back the moment we stepped into that familiar room.
The faces may have changed, but the emotions were the same. There were freshmen, wide-eyed and away from home for the first time. Sophomores, excited to live with their best friends in Roberta Hall (our sorority dorm). Juniors, realizing how quickly time passes as they prepare for leadership roles. And seniors, holding back tears as they soak up their final moments before graduation.
As alumni speakers, our mission was simple: share what sisterhood and belonging meant to us. But in the process, I found myself reflecting on the passing of time—not just in college, but in motherhood, too.
Looking Back While Moving Forward
During our presentation, someone asked if we would go back to those college years if we could. The friendships and memories are priceless, but we all agreed—we wouldn’t return. Every season of life has its own beauty, and the key is to notice the glimmers right in front of us.
That question reminded me of where I am now in motherhood. Both of my kids are in school full days, and for a brief moment, I wondered if I wanted another baby. How could the baby and toddler stages be over already?
But the truth is, I don’t want to start over. I love where we are now. I love hearing their laughter, watching their personalities blossom, and being present for each new chapter.
I came across a quote recently that captured this perfectly:
“I don’t want another baby. But I would give anything to go back and be their mama for the very first time again. To do it slower, softer, wiser. To hold them without wondering if I’m doing it right. To soak in every bit of them without rushing the day. Not to fix it. To feel it twice.”
Isn’t that the essence of parenthood? We can’t stop time, but we can slow down enough to notice it.
The Beauty of Time Passing
As I sat with those college women, I thought about their parents—how proud and yet how heartbroken they must have felt dropping off their daughters. Parenting is a rollercoaster of joy, nostalgia, and letting go. From tiny hands wrapped around your finger, to that first “mama,” to high school graduation—it all goes by in the blink of an eye.
Eighteen years passed in a flash for me, and I know the next eighteen will too. But instead of wishing for yesterday or worrying about tomorrow, I want to cherish the now.
One of the simplest ways I’ve found to pause and connect with my kids is through reading together. Whether it’s at bedtime, after school, or during a quiet weekend morning, a book slows us down and gives us a moment to laugh, imagine, and dream together.
Create Meaningful Moments With Your Kids
If your home library needs a refresh, my children’s books—T-Rex and Tuck Explore and The Adventures of Ella Bella—are perfect additions for your next family read-aloud. Each story is designed to spark imagination, build confidence, and remind children (and parents) of the joy found in everyday moments.
👉 Take time this week to share a book with your child. Let it be a reminder that while time flies, the memories you create together will last a lifetime.
Happy Reading,
Katie Marie
